FAB – Fashion against bullying03.08.2012
Ever heard of Fashion against bullying (F.A.B)? No? Read on!
I was wondering whether I should post an outfit or photo diary/inspirational post when I got this mail in my inbox. And after reading it, I decided that this topic is more valuable than any inspirational/beauty/outfit post out there. Some of you may already know what it’s all about from the title and the photo, some of you may have never heard of it before. I’ll try and make the ‘fashion against bullying’ movement a bit more clear now.
I’m sure you all are familiar with fashion bullying, everyone’s been encountered with it and possibly without even knowing it. Whether you’ve been bullied or you’re the bully, you can relate to this.
I am going to share a personal story with you. While I was growing up, at times I used to cry day and night because my mom couldn’t afford those ‘trendy’ (using the term loosely here) clothes and shoes my friends had. I always felt like an outcast because I was judged for what I was wearing. My clothes were always clean, always new but somehow they weren’t ‘fashionable’ enough for the people I considered friends. When I got a bit older, I started thinking on my own and stopped trying to fit into my so-called friend’s clique. I started wearing what I thought was pretty and what I could pay for in paper money, not house rents. I started wearing my dad’s sweaters, my mom’s blouses. My grandma would make me dresses and pants. Little by little, I realized I parted ways with my friends and generally people in my hometown in terms of fashion and various opinions. I started being different. And the best part was – it has been there all along, it just took me a while to figure it out. My mom always told me that knowledge is far more important than material. When you acquire knowledge, the material will come. And she is right. Today, all those “friends” I was trying to hang with are the same as I remember, judgmental and crowd followers, just wasting their lives away trying to be everything else but themselves.
In this internet and overall digital oriented era, it’s got even worse. Every single human being on this planet is given a voice for praise or slander; nowadays, people think what they give is constructive criticism but telling someone their dress is ugly is just pure hatred. But why? Why make someone miserable? Why feed off of their stress? Trust me on this – don’t sweat over those mean anonymous comments. Their only purpose is to hurt your feelings and make you doubt yourself. Their lives must be empty and sad so by trying to make someone feel less worthy – they feel like they have a purpose. But the truth is, you don’t have to and shouldn’t be okay with that. You have the power to stand up for yourself.
If someone says “You’re so weird”, reply with “You’re so generic”. If someone laughs at you for having you own style, laugh back at them for not having it. If you have the luck to be different and creative in your own ways then don’t back down just because one person thinks it’s funny or stupid. Go for it and be happy and proud of who you are. We were all born as individuals so why put in any effort to fit into the mass mold?
All of those reasons were enough for me to just sit down and write this post in one breath. I’m so glad that someone finally decided to take a global stand and found a way to use fashion against bullying. No matter how funny and small it may sound to some, it’s not to be underestimated.
Head over to the official site of Fashion Against Bullying and read the stories of other people. Feel like showing your support? Just upload a look of your own with their logo somewhere on it. You can also check mine here.
And if you’ve been moved and feel you have something to say on the subject then write, share, scream! Spread the word! Let’s stop fashion discrimination and looks-based judgment once and for all.