how to be yourself11/06/2013
Check me out, just casually being myself in the photos above.
You know that corny ass cliche everyone uses every time when they feel deep and try to give advice to a lost soul? I bet you do. Every pep talk in the history of pep talks pretty much ends with “Just be yourself!” Whatever the fuck that’s supposed to mean. I can’t really tell if people who advise that truly know the meaning of it or just trying to make their words seem profound without any actual meaning behind them. Now I am not writing this to actually tell you what the exact phrase translates into, but rather to inspire you to stop and think for a while about the subject. I’ve always been an agnostic. I doubt everything (in terms of thinking for myself before I actually do or say something) and I don’t take things for granted (at least I try not to). Questions like “Why?” or “How?” always tickle my imagination a bit too much to just let it all pass by me without even thinking about it. That’s how I get caught up in thinking about this kind of everyday stuff. This topic specially caught my attention since it’s something I’ve been hearing on daily basis lately. From Facebook statuses to Twitter updates to Tumblr inspirational quotes to celebrities to random people around you, somehow this lil’ sentence finds a way to pop up right in my face. And frankly, I’m getting kind of fed up with it.
Preparing to write this article,
I made popcorn, logged on Tumblr and was legitimately crying after ten minutes of scrolling through those dumb hipster shit image quotes did an extent search on the said subject. I googled it. By the time I hit page 3 of search results, I was determined to have my say about the whole “Be You” thing.
At the same time, there really isn’t much to say. When it comes to these “self-help” articles, they’re usually written down in the format of a list or (even worse) steps you have to take in order to be yourself. Excuse me while I laugh, but I don’t believe there is a well-thought out plan you can follow and miraculously “be yourself”. To be honest, how can a person even know if they’re being themselves or not? For example, let’s say you’re confused and don’t feel yourself. You type “how to be yourself” in the search bar, find the steps you need to take and you’re done! The only problem is, there are million other people reading the exact same article at the exact same time, following the exact same steps and becoming, well, exactly like you. Do you feel more like yourself knowing there are million people that are the same way as you? My point exactly.
If you’re new to my blog and this is the first post you read, you might be wondering what the heck is this. Have you stumbled upon a fashion blog or Erich Fromm’s personal diary? If you’re here for style and fashion – the principle can be applied to that too. The key to everything in life is thinking with our own brains. I’m sure we all have one, we just have to learn to use it the right way. To think out of the box, if you will. Be influenced, but at the end of the day – make your own decision. Be inspired, but process it through your own prism. Be a part of a specific group, movement, have specific style – but take it up a notch, spice it up with a pinch of your own personality. Don’t be afraid to find your own answers and speak up when you do. Don’t smother your inner being just so your outer one could fit into the place you think you belong to. Most importantly, don’t sweat it if you don’t know how to be yourself or if you don’t feel like yourself anymore. Instead, take your time and let it all rest. It’ll come to you when the time is right.
If nothing written above makes sense to you and you want some concrete answers, without having to think about it – Google is your best friend. I, unfortunately, am not.
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